By LESLIE NICOLE SMITH and DAVA GUERIN
The relationship between a service dog and a veteran is akin to a team walking a tightrope. To succeed, they must focus on each other, intently. Distract one and both can stumble. When they are in sync, the intricate teamwork going on can appear effortless to the outside world. And this partly explains why some people, often quite innocently, insist on being a distraction. Hence the ubiquitous question:
Can I pet your dog? Uh, no, not now. Not ever. Keep your paws off, please.
Would you want someone to ask if they could rub your heart surgeonâ€™s head while she was operating on you? Would you think it appropriate if someone offered to rub your lawyerâ€™s belly while he was trying to convince a jury of your innocence?
Probably not, right? Youâ€™d think these were grossly inappropriate questions and certainly needless distractions in the midst of critical, sometimes life and death, situations.
And thatâ€™s exactly how you should think about service dogs when they are about their work. Note the key word: work.
In public, vest on, these dogs are engaged in life-saving tasks for their veterans. Guide dogs prevent blind or vision-impaired veterans from wandering into the street when a light is red. For veterans with prosthetic limbs, their dogs open doors, keep watch for things easily tripped over or act as a brace when vets are walking or standing up. Service dogs for those with post-traumatic stress disorder are often on point, keeping potential triggers that would raise stress or anxiety levels for their veterans at bay. For veterans prone to seizures, their dogs will alert them if they sense an episode coming on.
We get it. These dogs are irresistibly cute. And clearly just the sight of one in a store or restaurant can turn normally reserved adults into children. Disabled veterans have seen grown men crawl under tables, barking to get a dogâ€™s attention. And while theyâ€™re down there, may as well pet the pup, right? If it were them, theyâ€™d no doubt welcome having their meal interrupted so people could show their pet some love.
But thatâ€™s the thing. Service dogs are not pets. When their vest is on â€” the garment often emblazoned with the words â€śService dog: Do not petâ€ť â€” they have an extremely important job to do. They have undergone months, sometimes years, of intense training that costs tens of thousands of dollars â€” an expense currently not covered by the Department of Veterans Affairs. They are there to watch for and react to dangerous situations and await commands from their veterans. If you call to these dogs or insist on talking to them, then, despite all that training â€” they are, after all, still dogs â€” they are potentially paying attention to you, not the veterans they are supposed to serve and protect. In other words, youâ€™re bouncing up and down on their tightrope.
Think about it this way: If the service dog turns its head or body to see what you want, the veteran with vision loss could wind up stumbling and falling. Prosthetic limbs can be seriously damaged in the twists and turns of a tumble. Or the dog might not catch the early signs of a seizure, or miss something that causes problems for a vet with PTSD.
The Americans with Disabilities Act actually requires owners to maintain control of their animals. Donâ€™t make a tough job more difficult.
So far, weâ€™ve just addressed how people react to service dogs. But their behavior toward disabled vets can be even more bizarre â€” and quite rude. For example, people often say, â€śI know itâ€™s a service dog and heâ€™s working, so I wonâ€™t pet him.â€ť This is so irritating. Itâ€™s as if they are magnanimously making the decision to pet or not pet without asking prior permission. An analogy would be: â€śI know you have a purse and I know I am not to steal it, so I wonâ€™t.â€ť How generous.
Worse is when people just reach out to pet a service dog, seemingly from every direction imaginable. Then they will get angry when the surprised disabled veteran turns and says, â€śPlease donâ€™t pet him, heâ€™s working.â€ť Their disturbing response? â€śWell, whatâ€™s wrong with you? You donâ€™t look disabled.â€ť People seem to genuinely believe they have a right to know this. (Maybe so they can decide in their own mind if itâ€™s OK to pet the animal with the vest that clearly says â€śDo not petâ€ť?) Thatâ€™s just wrong. There is never a need for a stranger to know a veteranâ€™s medical history. In fact, the ADA doesnâ€™t even allow staff in stores or restaurants to ask people with a service animal what their disability is. They are permitted two questions: Is the service animal required because of a disability? And what work or task has it been trained to perform? If veterans donâ€™t have to disclose their disabilities in those situations, why would they ever make themselves vulnerable by blurting it out to strangers on the street?
The disabled veteran community has a slogan, Paws Off Please (POP), designed to educate people about interacting with the service animals that are becoming more and more commonplace in public. So, lesson one: If a dog has a vest on, that means itâ€™s working. Donâ€™t pay attention to it.
But, please, donâ€™t ever ignore the veterans. Instead, be sure to thank them for their service.
Smith, a retired Army captain who is legally blind and uses a prosthetic leg, is an advocate for wounded warriors, along with her service dog, Issac. Guerin is the co-author, with Kevin Ferris, of â€śVets and Pets: Wounded Warriors and the Animals That Help Them Heal.â€ť They wrote this for the Philadelphia Inquirer.
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